Over-thinking a situation, that’s what we women are so good at! It’s been four days since my romantic rendezvous with Shrek and although he does continue to text me daily, he still has not asked to see me again. What the heck?
So I turned the attention of my scrutiny off from him and onto myself. Was there something I did? Something I said? Oh wait… yup. There was something I may have said…
It was just after “the morning after” and I rolled out of his arms and stared at the ceiling as the images of a vivid dream I had the night before came rushing back into my mind. In retrospect, it was probably one of those dreams that I should have kept to myself.
In my dream, Shrek and I had discovered a condemned hotel, still plush with all the furnishing, but eerily vacant. We decided to hide away in one of the rooms where we could continue our love making undetected.
It soon became apparent to me that there was a ghost in our hotel room. I began communicating with the ghost via written messages on the wall. A message from the ghost read: “It is time for you to leave”
I shared this information with Shrek and we both agreed we should heed the warning and we hastily left the hotel.
Outside, the building was surrounded by police. As we rounded the corner of the building, they took Shrek into custody and scheduled him for… um… execution. I was also detained and forced to go to church.
By the time I finished telling my dream to Shrek, he was already reaching for his clothes.
“That started off as a really great dream, but I have some issues with the ending,” he said. “I can’t believe you’re already trying to find ways to kill me off!”
“What!” I cried. “That’s silly! What about me?? I had to go to church!!”
“Yeah, and I had to get DEAD!” he replied.
I guess he sorta had a point.
Note to Self: Never share your dreams of executing your lover with your lover. It will not go over as well as you might have expected.
The thing is, maybe a small part of me did feel like we were condemned and committing a crime worthy of repenting. Maybe there is still a ghost in the bedroom – and maybe, just maybe, my salvation waits around the next corner.
Yeah, maybe telling him about dreaming about killing him shriveled up the wee-one and he's a little afraid for his life right now.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, it's only been four days and he is just coming back home from being gone for a month. Let him settle back into his home routine...at least he's texting you daily.
Hmm...I agree with this comment. Though I don't blame you for being a tiny bit crazy about it because I would be too. If you get that anxious, maybe just bite the bullet and him when you're gonna hang again?
DeleteTo borrow a phrase, "Sometimes a dream is just a dream." I have dreams about dying all the time. Doesn't mean I want to kill myself, or the other people in them, you know?
ReplyDeleteI guess he is a little freaked out. I hope as he gets to know you he will see you wouldn't kill him!
ReplyDeleteIt's just a generally good rule not to share your dreams with anyone. But he's still texting, that's a good sign. Seriously though, what does that dream mean?
ReplyDeleteIf you have a dream about vivisecting his Oscar Meyer, do him a favor, skip telling him the story and just schedule a therapy session.
I don't share dreams with Tony. HE already thinks I'm crazy. He doesn't remember his dreams, and when he does, he immediately regrets telling me.
ReplyDeleteNotes for us: What goes on between the voices in our heads should stay within our heads.
Hmm, sounds like a joke to me, I doubt he got that worked up over a dream, especially if he's still texting you...
ReplyDeleteAlso, I'm new... I'll have to read back and find out why you refer to him as "Shrek" haha, not the most flattering nickname...
Couple of thoughts.......
ReplyDelete1) stop overthinking! I say that as someone who has obsessed about my new relationship every day since it started. sigh. The best thing I've found to do when I'm obsessing is just write it out, get rid of it.
2) I personally think the hardest thing about going from marriage to dating is the feeling of comfort. This comes in 2 places in this post...... I hear that normal dating people don't necessarily see each other multiple times/week. So whereas you're used to spending a lot of time with your husband, that might not be the expectation of new boyfriend. Also.... dream sharing.... on the one hand, if he can't handle your dreams, better to find out now. On the other, you don't have that history and understanding with him where you can just share everything like you did with MM, who knew you and understood where you were going with things. I don't know if that makes sense - hopefully!
Best of luck :) It will work out as it's supposed to!
We have a no dream telling before breakfast is eaten rule around these parts.
ReplyDeleteMy husband has dreams that fuck with him in our real life and frankly it pisses me off. I don't want to hear that shit.
I say Shrek is just trying to be sweet but give you some space and not freak you out. He's strikes me as smart enough to know you're a wee skittish.
You're adorable, have I told you that?
I would agree with all of this here, But since i do know you in real life, i think it is wise to do just that. You have told him other things that did not freak him out. Let it roll and see where it goes, if he asks again you can evaluate how you feel at that time..
ReplyDeleteHmm...I don't know. I think he may have taken it a bit too literally. I would have just thought it was a dream and didn't mean anything much other than that.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe he's still texting when clearly your mind fabricated this story in which you kill him off. Then again, going to church sounds like serious punishment to me. I like beautiful buildings, and that includes churches, but I just couldn't care less about some guy telling me he knows for sure he's holding the key to eternal bliss. Amen.
ReplyDeleteCotton tail huh? I'm starting to like this blog. (RE: Vagina post) - My wife find's her jaw muscles are sore.......from talking.
ReplyDeleteI don't think over-thinking is just the prerogative of women...us blokes can fall into that trap as well...and he is still texting so it aint all bad :)
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